‘Give my baby to my sister?’: Parents pressure their pregnant daughter to give her newborn baby to her infertile twin sister, insane ultimatum shocks everyone

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Aug 29, 2024 1:00 PM EDT

This family learned exactly how infertility can tear apart a family, but not because of predictable strife between a couple. Imploding within the entire family structure lurked an insane ultimatum that would flush out this family's Golden Child syndrome in the most despicable way.

Infertility is a challenge that many couples don't realize they're unprepared to handle until they're face-to-face with the cold hard truth–They may never have children of their own. But that doesn't mean you can't still be a parent! Of course, there are many ways to have a son or daughter that never involve pregnancy: you can adopt, you can foster, or you can steal your sister's baby before it's ever born… Wait wait wait, that last one's a bit insane, right?

But that's exactly what's happening to the woman in our next story. 

Born a twin to the Golden Child of the family, u/Queasy_Owl_1176 was no stranger to being sidelined by her parents. However, when she got pregnant for the first time, her parents showed their true colors (and unbridled favoritism). Her twin sister, who had been struggling with infertility, was married and had a traditionally 'stable' life, so when the parents heard of their other child's pregnancy out of wedlock, they thought it made sense to just give the baby to the twin who deserved it. Because that's totally how this works…

Keep scrolling to read this insane story of family drama that'll make your own family seem entirely benign–because at least your parents aren't trying to steal your baby and give it away to their preferred child.

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    They believe she "deserves" it more
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    AITA for refusing to give my baby to my twin sister who has always been the 'golden child'?
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    Hey, Reddit. I'm in a really tough spot and could use some outside perspectives. I'm a 28-year-old single woman, currently 7 months pregnant and living on my own. My sister and I are twins, but she's the golden child in our family-always getting special treatment, praise, and the best of everything.
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    Growing up, she was the perfect daughter in my parents' eyes, while I often felt like the overshadowed one. It was like our entire childhood revolved around her being showered with gifts and accolades, while my achievements were downplayed or ignored. Now, she's married and her husband is great, but they've been struggling with infertility. The situation has now taken an insane turn.
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    Recently, our parents approached me with a shocking proposal: they want me to give my baby to my sister and her husband once it's born because they believe she "deserves" it more. My heart sank when they expressed this. They argued that since she has a stable home and a family, she is better suited to raise a child than I am, given that I'm a single mother.
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    This left me feeling heartbroken and furious. I get that they're excited about being grandparents, but I've worked hard to prepare for this baby, and I firmly believe that my child deserves to be raised by me. Sure, I might not be a picture-perfect family in their eyes, but I have love to give, and I can provide for my baby.
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    I thought my refusal would put an end to their unreasonable expectations, but instead, they escalated things. They staged a "family meeting" where they tried to pressure me further. Mom even went as far as to give me an ultimatum saying, "If you don't do this for your sister, we will withdraw all support for
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    you and will stop considering you part of this family." This completely blindsided me, and I was left feeling more isolated than ever. I've since expressed my clear stance: my child is not a pawn in this ridiculous game. I've told my parents I'm not giving
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    up my baby, and frankly, I was surprised that they would ever even ask. But I'm worried that my refusal might permanently fracture our already strained family ties. So, Reddit, AITA for saying no to my parents and refusing to give my baby to my sister?
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    TL;DR: Parents are pressuring me to give my baby to my twin sister because she's infertile and "deserves" it more. I refused, and they threatened to cut me out of the family. AITA for standing my ground?
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    UPDATE: Thanks for the comments, I didn't expect this to blow up so much! A common theme in the comments is people suggesting me to move or get cameras, which I currently can't do either.
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    UPDATE 2: People keep asking me why I need to be told if I am the and if I need to cut them off. It's because part of me cant help but feel insanely guilty for cutting them off and denying my child grandparents and and an aunt.
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    . Novel-Sprinkles3333 1 day ago ΝΤΑ Please let your OB and the hospital know that this is going on. You might need to be admitted as a Jane Doe patient. The situation is truly horrifying. Best wishes for you and your little person!
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    Apart Foundation1702 23 hr. ago I also think that OP needs a restraining order against them all because this baby is at risk of being kidnapped!
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    tropicsandcaffeine · 23 hr. ago Yep. I can see them "babysitting" or coming to see the baby then taking it against OP's wishes
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    colinfirthfanfiction 1 day ago But I'm worried that my refusal might permanently fracture our already strained family ties. that was them. this is psychotic. go NC.
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    Ratchet_gurl24. 1 day ago You say they're excited to be grandparents. And yet they are going to great lengths to alienate their grandchild's mother. Not very bright. Your twin maybe the golden child, but you have something they want. You hold all the cards here. Do not let
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    them bully and manipulate you into agreeing to their appalling demands. If they ever want a relationship with you and your child it's solely on your terms. Stand firm. If they truly want to see your child, they have to stop this nonsense.
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    KrzyLdy 1 day ago Let the trash take itself out. It will hurt at first, but you're better off without them. Surround yourself with people that build you up, not tear you down. It doesn't matter that they share blood with
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    you if they don't treat you like family. They said they're willing to act like you're not family, so beat them to the punch and drop them first. Block and delete their numbers.
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    ScumBunny 1 day ago What the actual ?! Who thinks that this would ever be something to ask?! I'm having a hard time believing this is real, but those people DO exist... OP, if this is real- absolutely go NC with all of them, alert the hospital staff and maybe even
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    the police/welfare services. Never let them alone with your baby. In fact- go full nuclear and leave the state! Keep any and all proof of these conversations just in case your parents try to file for rights. This is abhorrent, and frankly, really weird.
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    Candid-Quail-9927 23 hr. ago NTA. Hate to say this but talk to a lawyer to protect yourself. I have a feeling your parents are not done. If I were you I would cut them off now before things escalate more.
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    Neenknits 1 day ago Your parents just permanently fractured your family by demanding you give away your baby. If you need to consider asking the hospital to protect your baby from being kidnapped by family, those are people you can never trust again.
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    WhizzoButterBoy 23 hr. ago Congratulations on your baby. You are doing the right thing. Brace yourself. Your family is literally crazy and may not be finished in their attempts to take your baby.
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    ERVetSurgeon · 23 hr. ago Record the conversation the next time and then post it on social media about what a crock of it is that you are being blackmailed. I guarantee it will stop when everyone turns on them.
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    Texas Yankee212.23 hr. ago NTJ - Your parents are the jerks in wanting you to give your baby away. You are better off without people like this in your life. Cut ALL contact - including when the baby is born. Introduce them at his/her high school graduation.
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